A YOGI CHA BLOG
GRATITUDE?
Hi, I’m Charlotte (Yogi Cha). I’m a yoga teacher with a degree in clinical psychology. I’ve always had a deep curiosity toward eastern and western approaches to understanding the mind, and the ming/body union. You’ll find me in the lovely Canggu Bali, nestled amongst coconuts, palm trees and sunshine 🥥🌴🌞
Healing loving – learning to love the trauma means learning to love oneself. To feel whole again.
To become grateful means to love the trauma that we have been through. It’s a hard nut to crack but if you can come to the understanding that not only did the trauma make you who you are today, it also created within you the desire to experience the opposite. You cannot experience what you desire without having created that from its contrast.
Just like the body can really only experience relaxation through tension first, we can only really enjoy silence when we have experienced noise. Or, we can truly appreciate the sun after a week of rain. You get the logic in what I’m saying. I was listening to a man who had been through tremendous trauma in childhood saying that he needs to love that trauma. He said “I have to learn to love the thing that I most wish had not happened” and “What punishments of God are not gifts?” If you are grateful for your life, then you have to be grateful for all of it. Because you will create the awareness of loss and therefore you can connect to other people’s loss. And when we can connect to others, we feel the love that being the most human you can be gives. The gift of each trauma gives us an understanding that allows us to connect to yet another thing within someone else. And to learn to love is to integrate everything that has been a part of our experiences.
How can what you went through be the blessing that gave you the appreciation of its opposite?
How did an abusive person in your early life create the appreciation for your “own made” family (friends etc) as an adult? In a way that you would not be able to appreciate it without that first experience.
At the end of the day, you choose how you want to position yourself with anything that has happened to you. So wether you want to take on the dualistic view of how we experience the world or you prefer seeing yourself as the victim of what happened to you, your life will take the path that follows that perception.