The importance of the words we use

Why is this?

Because we do not chose the words we use randomly.

The words we use come from our vocabulary and therefore from the thoughts in our head. The famous narrative we all walk around with, the perception we have of the world, is dictating how we experience our environment.

We see this on small children at the playground for instance. We hear them taking on mommy’s voice or use daddy’s remark and often it’s not the happiest of situations that are replayed. It’s the “go to your room” voice or “no you are not allowed to do that” remark because those are the ones that have marked the child. The index finger of authority, the disruption to something that was natural behaviour to the child.

The same way that someone’s harsh words in our day to day life might mark us strongly because it seems inadequate to the situation or on the contrary, not mark us because it seems perfectly natural in the moment.

When you start to pay attention to the words you use, you notice that there are some words that comes faster to you than others. Just like the way you hold yourself in space, the words you use are HABITS OF BEHAVIOUR.

So let’s say you have a habit of calling yourself stupid when you do something wrong, when your head is in the clouds and you mislay your keys or when you’re not capable of keeping your calm but lashes out in anger. “I’m so stupid” is rather common isn’t it (or something in the line of those words). Where did that come from? When were we taught that doing something like that means we are stupid?

So let’s come back to what I said earlier about someone else’s words marking you or not, it’s the same with yourself. Since it’s such a habit, you will not even realise that you are doing it. It seems natural in the moment. It is in your habits, in your automatic mode, in your subconscious mind.

What does that mean?

Well, that it is in alignment with the narrative in your head. With the thoughts in your mind. With the BELIEFS you carry.

So the reason it is harmful to keep repeating negative things about yourself is actually that you keep confirming the LIMITING BELIEFS you have about yourself. Over and over again.

Why am I calling this a belief? Because it’s a thought that you have been thinking so many times that you don’t even have to consciously THINK it anymore for it to be TRUE to you. Naturally, if it is true to you, this is the perception you will have of a situation.

In other words: you keep living the same life because you keep coming from the same perspective and nothing will ever change. Which is great if the perception is serving you. Less great if it is not.

Look around you, listen to the people around you.

Does it seem to be a joyful, merciful world?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could keep confirming a belief that allows us to feel good instead?

It isn’t complicated in itself, it does demand your alertness though.

It isn’t far fetched, it does mean that you might need to seem challenging to others.

As all things; it starts with you.

It starts with today and it starts with the smallest of things.

Like becoming aware of yourself. Your behaviours, your preferences.

The why and the how.

Increasing your awareness; first about yourself and then the rest of the world.

There is always something going on.

Hi, I’m Charlotte (Yogi Cha). I’m a yoga teacher with a degree in clinical psychology. I’ve always had a deep curiosity toward eastern and western approaches to understanding the mind, and the mind/body union. You’ll find me in the lovely Canggu Bali, nestled amongst coconuts, palm trees and sunshine 🥥🌴🌞